Lost for words when faced with a familiar face not seen
for ages? Changing your path to the checkout line to avoid the cheerleader
from high school, whose name is not quite coming up? Avoid situations
like these from now on.
Be sure to try and follow the techniques below to help
you remember names and faces.
- Listen carefully to the name of the person and politely
ask to repeat if the name is not clear to you. Repeat the name to yourself
several times.
- If handed a name card, read the name to yourself aloud,
one or two times. The mind remembers better when the sound heard is
familiar, such as one’s voice.
- While you are conversing with the person, keep the
name card in front of you during the entire conversation, so that you
can refer to it from time to time until you can easily recall the name
of the person.
- Recall a friend or relative that shares the same name.
You can mention how you are familiar with your acquaintance’s
name by virtue of a friend or relative that shares the same name.
- As you recall your friend or relative with the same
name, try to make a mental association between the two. Now this can
be done in the beginning of the conversation, when there is something
physical or immediately obvious characteristic that is common. Or it
can be towards the middle or end of the conversation, where you find
out more about your acquaintance, be it their occupation (John the lawyer,
same as your lawyer) or a striking characteristic (Ana is as talkative
as your niece, also named Ana).
- If you are familiar with the etymology or origin of
the name (for non-English names) mention that as well and spend sometime
elaborating on it. You’ll be surprised at how most people are
not familiar with such trivia.
- As you get into the thick of things, remember to use
the name of your new friend as often as possible, listening to yourself
as you repeat it.
- From their physical appearance, create a mental picture
of the one thing that stands out about the person. For example, Sarah
has short hair, and then you can mentally remember, bob-cut Sarah. Or
if Bill has a prominent nose, then imagine a big nose and remember Bill.
If Fred was wearing red, then remember Red Fred.
- If humor works for you, exaggerate anything that will
help you remember the person, such as Cathy who maybe wearing a safari
scarf can be remembered as Tiger Cathy. Or if Samantha is wearing pink
that day, then make a mental picture of Samantha as a Flamingo.
- Ask as much information about the person as you can.
If from a different state, then use the State abbreviation to correlate
with their first name. Hannah from California can be remembered as Hannah
CA, or Aaron from Arizona can be remembered as AA from AZ.
- What are their interests? What sport do they play?
What is their job? In answering any of those questions, one of the replies
will stand out and will make yourself be more familiar with the person
in front of you.
- If you have access to a digital camera or a mobile
phone with a digital camera, then snap one with your new friend. The
picture need not be the most photogenic for both of you, just a sure
way to keep a remembrance of the meeting.
- When ending the conversation, make sure to repeat
the name of the new friend for as often as possible. Recall one or two
points in the conversation that you will never forget and make a testament
about him or her on those points, before you part.
- Immediately after meeting the person, try to jot down
whatever transpired through the concluded conversation: where you met,
how, why and the specifics of your conversation. Try to keep that note
in a scrapbook of small notes about acquaintances.
- Better still, at the end of each day, jot down specific
highlights of your day in a journal, especially when meeting someone
and you are sure to keep the acquaintance forever.
The next time you attend a high school re-union, or
bump into an old friend at the mall, don’t be at a loss …
snappily call them out and rekindle friendships that were almost lost
but are now found and remembered, forever!
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